Guarding Your BoundariesMy theme for today's post is managing your personal boundaries. This is, as in many other social areas, more problematic for humans than dogs. We tend not to issue those unwanted, hard-to-refuse invitations, for instance, although we often have to make snap decisions in nose-to-nose situations about whether to lunge or sniff.
Moira consulted me recently on an issue that troubled her in the past and which she feels she's never resolved. [Moira Waugh is the human writer who is currently working on a novel called 'Small White Dog' in which I appear.] She used to be a regular at a sports club where she encountered many women in the changing room who didn't have jobs to go to and who were extremely loquacious. They often invited her to have coffee with them. Moira did not want to spend time with females who talked incessantly about themselves and weren't willing to play the listener, but couldn't think of a polite way to say 'no'; especially as she'd been pretending to be friendly and interested when she wasn't.
Here are three possible responses. Please feel free to write a comment telling me which you think is the correct one; or offer a response of your own:
- "No thanks, you're boring."
- "I'd love to but I'm busy for the next five years."
- Cancel membership at the club.
Thought for the Day
Biting should always be the last resort in any dispute.
Film star: Jack Black
Film: Sexy Beast
Book: The Moviegoer by Walker Percy
Food: Egg-on-beans-on-cheese-on-toast at Winchester Bus Station Cafe
Song of the Week
I Miss You by Melissa James
From her album Day Dawns