Saturday, January 26, 2013

LISTENING WITH YOUR EYES

Enjoying a healthy snack with a friend
In any situation, dogs use their noses first and you humans use your eyes. 

During your interaction with other members of your species, you are constantly looking and listening and thinking at the same time, and from my own observations I've noticed that you don't use any of these senses particularly well.

A friend told me recently that her mother used to have frequent chats with a neighbour and though they'd have described themselves as friends, they never listened to each other. Their conversations ran along in parallel but they weren't having the same conversation. I see this all the time with humans. You don't listen to each other properly. When a companion is talking, you take in a little bit and then switch to thinking about what you want to say next, in the meantime staring around at what's going on in your environment.

Here are two exercises for you this week:
  1. When you are with another human, really listen to them. Don't think about what you're going to say. Listen to their words with your ears, listen to their body language with your eyes, listen with your mind to analyse what they're saying and how they're feeling. (This exercise will probably turn out to be too boring to repeat.)
  2. Next time you are out for a walk, stand still and close your eyes for a minute. Listen to your surroundings. What can you hear - leaves rustling, distant dog barking, birdsong, water trickling? (Moira, who is writing a book about me called Small White Dog, says it's more likely to be someone using a strimmer or shouting into their mobile, but she is a pessimist.)
Listening to my surroundings
Favourite Things
Food: Derby Pie
Music: Midwinter by Colab

If you would like to read the opening pages of  SMALL WHITE DOG, visit
Moira Waugh's website and follow the link on her page.

7 comments:

  1. Hey Tony. Glad to see you've sprung back from your bout with stomach trouble. Thanks for the simple, but powerful, life tips this week! Enjoyed the link to the novel manuscript. . . .. .See you next week.

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    1. How nice to hear from you yet again, Mr Mark, and I know Moira will be pleased that you've actually read some of her novel.

      It's my true vocation to try and help humans, and so it's made my tail wag that you are finding my exercises helpful. There'll be more coming next Saturday.

      With warmest friendship

      Tony Russell

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  2. I am totally distracted by Tony's photos. Tooooo SWEEEET!

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    1. I'm blushing under my hair! Thank you, Ms Toni, for your compliment AND for returning to my blog. It's easy for humans to be distracted from their work by pictures of animals, isn't it?

      With a lick and a wag

      Tony Russell

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    2. PS: Did you know that if you click on my photos you can see larger versions? My beard and moustache are much admired among other canines.

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  3. Excellent advice as always and I'm going to take it. Slowing down and actually giving ones full attention... yeah. Great reminder. Thank you, Tony. I look forward to reading Moira's opening pages!

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    1. I wish I could show you with a few nice face licks how pleased I am that you read my blog every week, Ms Kara. I am sure that you give more attention to most other humans in conversation than they give to you. I think that's how you are. I hope you enjoy the opening of the novel. Happy weekend.

      Tony Russell

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